wow, its been a while.
its funny ya know? a quick catchup, my boyfriend and i are back together, and things have been great. we had an arguement last night, and i thought the worst, but tonight that all changed.
i went to my philosophy class tonight, and we watched the movie _shadowlands_ and it tought me a very valuable lesson. for the first time in a while i understand what i have to do in my life, and that is very compforting.
i learned a question that i have long questioned: "why do we love?" and when we love, knowing that love is going to bring so much pain, knowing this we still allow ourselves to become weakened to that reality. what i learned tonight, however, brings justification to our gullability.
*it was stated best by author and philosopher c.s. lewis "we love reguardless of pain because that pain is part of the happiness..."
and now in that i find that i have only grown from all of this. i loved when i knew disaster would strike, and the pains i experience are direct evidence of the happiness that i experienced.
many things happened in my life last night, i burned some final bridges, and now i realize those bridges will never be rebuildable. i used manipulation to find truth, and deception to create chaos in order to finalize order in my mind. i never believed in the yin-yang theory till i experienced it so close to heart. i have validated in my mind how cold hearted, and oblivious to the concepts of love and friendship i truely am. i now see that it took the experience of utter pain, and agony to show me that i don't know how to love purely. i see now how much i have to learn, and to find out how to love. i have used the people closest to my heart in a cruel sick game to prove to myself of my immaturity, and lack of understanding, and sensitivity to the emotions and feelings of other people. and now here i sit, in my dorm, typing these misconfigured words, and meaningless ramblings of an empty mind, and broken heart. i can smell defeat all around me, and know it is only because i brought it upon myself. it is a cruel awakening as to how shallow and meaningless i have become, and how empty my heart is to comfort.
so where do i go from here? i don't know. away. far away. i will recieving a check soon for a couple thousand dollars, it should be enough to take care of a few months of rent in a apartment someplace. i just don't know what else to do. i have nowhere to turn, no one to call my friend because i have closed myself off to everyone. and now, again i sit. i will run as i always have, and i will fail as i always have. this pain that i know live, and the reality i have created for myself has been tought to me by the worst teacher of all, experience. but as c.s. lewis says, pain is the evidence of happiness. the times i have shared with those around me here i have been happy, and have loved, and will remember and cherish forever, but i can see no solution except for moving on.
and that in a nutshell is the rude awakening that i learned tonight as i sat crying in the dark lecture hall watching as c.s. lewis was destroyed by the life he created for himself, and how the life of one women who came into his life, shattered his false reality showing him how weak of a life he had created for himself. i couldn't help but weap to the reality of how close i related to him, and his life.
---> funy isn't it how some of the simplest things can rock the boat?